Despite what everybody tells you, long-distance relationships can work. They aren’t easy to make it work, but it happens more often than you may think. Of course, this doesn’t mean that there aren’t a few downsides to an long distance relationship. On this page, we are going to discuss some of the pros and cons of a long-distance relationship. This can help you to decide whether it is something that you want to let yourself in for.
The Pros of a Long Distance Relationship
Let’s start off with the good parts of an long distance relationship. These are the reasons why you may want to consider one (not that many people will have much of a say in the matter)
More opportunities for personal growth
One of the main reasons why people enter into an long distance relationship is simply so that they can grow as a person. An opportunity presents itself elsewhere, and only one person can travel. Those who can continue a relationship while seeking personal growth will become much more rounded as people. They are better educated. They find better jobs. Obviously, you can accomplish all of this by breaking off a relationship before you take those opportunities, but do you really want to lose somebody you care about?
It is fair to say that when you are seeing the same person regularly, it starts to become the ‘norm’. You will take them for granted, no matter how much you care about them. However, if you spend time away from the people that you love, you will realize that you start to appreciate them in more ways than you ever knew possible. You think about the things they do for you. Why they make you feel happy. It can add a completely new dynamic to the relationship, and some people will find that an LDR will increase their love for another person as opposed to reducing it.
Keeps a healthy balance in life
If you are studying or working in close proximity to the person you are in a relationship with, you will often find that all of the issues that you are dealing with in those areas will ‘sour’ the relationship. You will spend so much time worrying about issues in your life that you can’t work on your relationship. One of the major benefits of being in an LDR is that you will have set times that are all about you. No other worries. Once again, people often find that their relationship becomes a lot stronger as a result.
Thrill when you see your partner again
Honestly, nothing is greater than the thrill of seeing your partner after a long time of not interacting face-to-face due to the LDR. Your relationship feels a lot fresher. It is also going to be surprisingly easy to pick up where you left off.
The Cons of a Long Distance Relationship
Now we have the pros out of the way, let’s take a look at some of the reasons as to why this may be a relationship that you want to avoid.
It is hard to bond
Even if you are phone chatting or using Skype every single day, there is still going to be something missing from your relationship. It can be hard to bond when you are not physically seeing each other regularly. The two of you are now (basically) living completely separate lives. Even if you communicate regularly, you may start to see a huge gap appear that you simply cannot heal.
You can’t be intimate
Obviously, there are some things that you can do if you are in an LDR, but none of it is going to be a replacement for the things that you can do when the two of you are together. Honestly, you will never realize just how wonderful a kiss is until you are apart from the person that you love.
You don’t feel secure
Even if you have a lot of trust in the other person, you can’t help but have the feeling that you lack security. Are they cheating? What are they feeling right now? This is part of the reason why only the strongest of relationships will survive to be long distance. Trust is a major killer. Even if there is no reason why you shouldn’t be trusting the other person, eventually it eats away at you, and you simply can’t deal with it anymore.
You won’t argue as much
Nope. This is not a pro. It is very much a negative. You will have issues with the other person. That is normal for every relationship. However, when you go ‘long-distance’, you will be trying to make the most of every moment you are interacting with one another. The result? You won’t bring up the negatives. They won’t disappear, they will just keep bubbling inside of you until they become a massive issue. It will harm the relationship.
A long-distance relationship is certainly not going to be for everybody. Only the strongest of relationships will survive the distance, and even then, it is still a gamble. However, if you genuinely believe that you are in love with somebody, you owe it to yourself to give it a try.