How to End a Friendship


One of the most difficult decisions you may have to make in your life is deciding to put an end to a friendship. There are many reasons why people begin to grow apart as friends, but if it is something that is becoming toxic in your life, it is time to walk away. A friend should never make you compromise your beliefs, integrity, values, or commitments. You should never be forced to lie or do something hurtful to yourself or someone else. No friend should ever make those demands upon you.

Ways NOT to End a Friendship

The worse thing that you can do is to make things ten times worse when you go to end the friendship. Unless situations absolutely warrant some of these ideas, try to avoid ending a friendship by cutting someone off cold turkey. You should never have to become hostile or aggressive with them or have someone else end the friendship for you. Lastly, you should speak to the person about ending the friendship, which should not be done over text.

Proper Ways to End a Friendship

Gradual Fade-Out

One way that you can end a friendship is to gradually pull away from the person. You can start to cut down on social interactions with that person and tends to avoid any hurt feelings. They will see how busy you and tough to get a hold of. They will not immediately look at themselves as the problem. You should take a little while to reply to them and keep responses short.

This can be a good way to avoid a confrontation or you feel as though the friendship is toxic. You don’t want to make things worse and let it escalate. Your friend will eventually see that you are just too busy for them and they will move on to someone else.

Difficult Conversation

If you do not feel as though the fade-out is the most effective way to end the friendship, then you may just need to have a heart to heart. Ask to meet the person somewhere and have a goal for the conversation. Think about how you want to express your emotions without making them confrontational. Explain how you have been feeling and why you felt this conversation is necessary. Even though this can be difficult, it could end up helping the friendship in the long run.

Take a Break

Taking a break can save a friendship in the long run. It can give both sides perspective on the friendship, time to calm down, and reevaluate the friendship. You might even notice during the break that you actually miss your friend. Be sure that if you take this avenue, you set a time to meet up once you are ready. Have an excuse prepared (if you didn’t start with the conversation) for why you won’t be seeing them for a while.

End it Right Away

Cutting someone off cold turkey is not the right way to end something immediately. If you are ready to move on from a friendship and you feel as though the methods above will not work, be honest with the person and tell them that your needs are not being met in the relationship and you just need to walk away. You are at least letting the person know you want to end the friendship and be done with it.