In an ideal world, friendships would form simply and last forever. Sadly, when life happens, it’s far too easy to damage a friendship that you thought would last forever… often to the point of no return. Or that’s what you might think.
A difficult as your situation is, especially if the two of you have ceased contact, it is possible to repair even the most damaged of friendships. You don’t want to waste valuable time ignoring the person who means the most to you, and sometimes, the best solution is to put your pride aside and work hard to make things right.
Here are some simple steps for fixing a broken friendship:
Give It Time
Contradictory as it may seem, if you’ve just had a huge falling out with a friend, you need to wait for the dust to settle before you approach them and attempt to make up. It’s best to wait a couple of weeks if you can, so that the hurtful things you may have said to each other don’t quite sting so much.
Release Your Frustrations Elsewhere
Sometimes, the only way to fix a friendship is to settle matters even when you know you were in the right. If that’s the case, you’ll need to direct your frustrations elsewhere, and not at your friend, if you want a chance to make things right. Perhaps ranting to a trustworthy family member might be all it takes for you to let go of your pent-up anger.
Don’t Be Afraid to Initiate Communication
It’s scary talking to somebody you love after the two of you have been through a massive falling-out. Perhaps you can only focus on the horrible things that were said during your dispute, which can make it even more daunting to be the one to reach out. You don’t want to be hurt all over again, after all. However, it really isn’t as hard as you might think, and your friend will probably be thankful that you took the step to initiate communication again.
Schedule a Meet-up
The easiest way to get your friendship back on track is to remind each other exactly why the two of you were ever so close in the first place. Arrange to meet up at one of your favourite locations – the higher the chance of guaranteed fun, the better – and get to talking. It might be awkward at first, but it won’t be long before you’re falling back into familiar conversation.
You might feel frustrated having to apologize if you don’t believe you’ve done anything wrong, but sometimes, you have to put your pride aside and do the right thing in the name of your friendship. You don’t have to get into specifics; simply saying “I’m sorry that we’ve had such a bad falling out” is enough to show your sincerity. Hopefully this will be enough to warrant an apology off your friend in return, and that’ll be that.