How to Get a Boyfriend before Christmas

December 22, 2016

How to Get a Boyfriend before Christmas / Unbrave Girl

Hello out there to all my single lady gal-pals!

It’s holiday time, again!

And we all know what that means, right?

If you said, “Time for relaxing, spending time with family and loved ones and sharing gifts we’ve carefully selected for them,” then you are WRONG. And you obviously haven’t been watching all the same cheesy, made-for-TV, Christmas movies like I have!

Because the correct answer is: Finding a boyfriend as fast as humanly possible even if it means doing something potentially illegal! Because we all know showing up single to Christmas dinner and having to listen to your Great Aunt Nancy ask you why you never have a boyfriend is basically the worst thing ever — even worse than jail!

But, you’ll be happy to know that even though Christmas is only days away, you still have time to find yourself your very own Hallmark-channel-movie-worthy hunk!

In fact, you have a number of different options you can pursue to get a boyfriend before Old Saint Nick starts sidling his way down your chimney. Here are just a few of the many possible choices available to you:

Option 1: The Reverse “It’s a Wonderful Life”

Become a busy, big-city, career-lady. Work in some vague field like marketing or designer purse management. Wear power suits and high heels and march around your office barking orders at your personal assistant. Or maybe you are the personal assistant. It really doesn’t matter as long as you are super busy —  so busy that you don’t even have time for breakfast, let alone love!

Hit your head while doing something busy and career-like. Did you know that busy career-ladies have a 75% higher chance of suffering concussions during the holiday season? It’s true!

Go into a comatose state.

Wake up in an alternative reality where you are no longer a busy, big-city, career-lady. Instead you are a happy family-lady living in a small town. Because we all know it’s impossible to be both a busy career-lady and a happy family-lady! You are now married to your college sweetheart with two adorable, curly-headed children.

When you wake up from your comatose state, instead of rushing to the hospital, you rush to find your college sweetheart who is miraculously not married or gay or an ex-con or any of the other things that college sweethearts usually end up being when you find them ten years later. Even more miraculous, he is still in love with you despite the fact that you sent him that envelope full of dead bees and your own pubic hair after he broke up with you on graduation night.

Get married and start working on popping out your adorable, curly-headed babies.

Option 2: The Surly Small Town Stranger

You are, again, a very busy, big-city, career-lady with no time for love. Yada, yada, yada.

Right before Christmas, you are sent to some small town to do some evil, busy, big-city, career-lady thing — like close down the town’s only bowling alley, buy up the locally owned lumberyard, or euthanize the town’s resident wild llama population.

Of course, the local townspeople are none too happy about your big-city, career-lady ways. They meet you with resistance. And pie! Because they may be pissed, but they are still good-natured, townsfolk who love their pie!

Leading the pack of unhappy, pie-wielding townsfolk is a surly but ruggedly handsome bowling alley manager/lumberjack/llama cowboy. Bonus points if he also happens to be a ghost (it happens).

Of course, you hate him at first. He is just SO FRUSTRATING. And he makes you stomp your high heels at least three times. But later your big-city, career-girl ice-heart starts to melt when you find out that he is widowed and that his wife died in a tragic jungle gym accident (it happens). Your ice-heart melts even more when you meet his adorable, curly-headed child. (They always have curly hair. Don’t ask me why. But as a curly-headed person, I have to agree that curly-haired people are especially adorable.)

When the surly but rugged widower rescues you from some near deadly accident possibly involving rabid llamas (it happens), you both realize that you are actually in love with each other. It just felt like hate for so long because what do you know about emotions, you big-city, career-lady?

You ditch your big-city career and your high heels, move to the small town, get married, wear sensible moccasins, and make lots of pies.

Option 3: Definitely your most illegal option. But, hey, at least you’ll get a boyfriend out of the deal!

Again, you are a big-city career-lady. Because this is really the only reason why a woman wouldn’t already be married at the ripe old age of twenty-eight. Obviously, careers make ladies into evil, emotionless, power-suit-wearing scarecrows. I mean, do you even have a heart in your chest or was it replaced by a Kate Spade clutch purse years ago?

You get a call from your mother/sister/best friend/ghost of your grand-meemaw begging you to come home for Christmas — even though you usually spend Christmas doing work because big-city careers don’t stop for Christmas!

You agree to come home, but realize shortly after hanging up the phone that you can’t go home without a boyfriend! What were you even thinking? Sure, you can graduate from some fancy Ivy League school and head up a major multinational marketing firm, but you just can’t deal with your pesky Great Aunt Nancy bringing up the whole boyfriend thing over Christmas ham again. You just CANNOT.

That’s when you decide to do what big-city career-types do when they want something done: you outsource! Yep, you hire some man to be your boyfriend. Or you kidnap him. Either way, really.

Of course, this would be super creepy and most likely illegal if you did this at any other time of the year. But since it’s happening over Christmas, that makes it romantic.

Things start off a little rocky in the beginning. Either the man you hired can’t remember the carefully detailed personae you have created for him and keeps on flubbing up and telling your parents the truth about himself (uggh!) or his wrists start to chafe from the handcuffs.

But, by the end of your trip home with your hired/handcuffed hunk of man, he’s fallen in love with you and you’ve fallen in love with him and now you have a funny story to tell the grandkids one day about how grandma handcuffed grandpa to the radiator and forced him to pretend to be in a relationship with her for three days. Hahahaha! What a hoot!

Option 4: So crazy it just might work.

You are a busy career-lady, but you also have a reasonable work-life balance. You have hobbies and friends and a pet and family that you visit on a fairly regular basis. You take vacations and go away on weekends and don’t have a problem leaving work in the office. You meet a nice guy at work or through friends or on the Internet or….


This is the most ridiculous story-line ever and would never happen. Forget it. This is totally not an option.

Option 5: The Cold-Hearted, Big-City Billionaire (and, surprise, for once, it’s not you!)

This time, you are NOT a busy big-city, career-lady! Instead you are a small-town cookie-baker/wreath-maker/guinea pig wrangler. You own a small but successful cookie bakery/wreath market/guinea pig farm. (I know! How original! Where do they even come up with this stuff?)

And then a big-city, career-type, billionaire-guy shows up in town and threatens to close your cookie bakery down/buy up your wreath market/euthanize all your guinea pigs. (Wait. This is starting to sound somewhat familiar.)

Of course, you hate him at first. He is just SO FRUSTRATING. And he makes you stomp your sensible moccasins at least three times. (Again. This is all starting to feel really repetitive. Like, are there really no other possible plot-lines?)

But your feelings for him start to change when you suffer from a concussion or he pays you a lot of money to be his fake-girlfriend or you find out he’s a ghost with two beautiful curly-headed ghost-children or… ummm… something with pies? I really don’t know anymore.

But I do know that you have SO MANY OPTIONS for finding yourself a suitable man-friend before Christmas! So you better get cracking! I heard your Great Aunt Nancy is coming over for Christmas Eve.


Do you watch cheesy Christmas made-for-TV movies? What’s your favorite most predictable plot-line? Please tell me I’m not alone in my ridiculous addictions. 


I've blathered on long enough! Now it's your turn!

  1. On December 22, 2016 at 11:45 am JessieV said:

    Any story that ends with curly-haired children is a good one. except #4, obvi. bc that’s just crazy.h

  2. On December 22, 2016 at 11:55 am Kate said:

    You forgot Option 6: you take a last-minute job as an au pair for a man who turns out to be a Danish/British/Vaguely-European-and-hot-so-who-cares prince and he falls in love with you at his fancy Christmas party.

    That one happens a lot, I hear.

  3. On December 22, 2016 at 3:11 pm kathi g said:

    hahahahaha! I see we have all been watching a LOT of the hallmark! You also forgot to mention that the busy lady executive must be played by a sitcom star from the 80s or 90s, with bonus points if Ed Asner shows up as a grumpy Santa! Merry Christmas!

  4. On December 22, 2016 at 3:12 pm Deedee said:

    BRAVO! You have, as always, managed to make me bust a gut laughing!! Merry Christmas!!

  5. On December 22, 2016 at 6:44 pm krishnakumarpradhan said:

    Merry X’mas Happy New year

  6. On December 22, 2016 at 8:52 pm Sandra L. said:

    I’d like to be a guinea pig rangler. It might be fun.

    I have curly hair too and I always hated it. But I see now that I was totally adorable child. If I do say so myself.

    Merry Christmas!

    • On December 23, 2016 at 12:13 pm Sally said:

      Oh really? That makes me sad. I love my curly hair — it’s so much easier to deal with than straight hair I feel. When I was a kid my hair was only kinda wavy as I didn’t get curly hair until I was in my adolescence. So I wouldn’t say I was that adorable as a child. But I’m super adorable now!
      Merry Christmas to you, too!

  7. On December 23, 2016 at 2:07 am Leslie in Oregon said:

    I started watching the Hallmark holiday movies after the election…you know why. You have done a remarkably incisive job at delineating just what makes them so soothing…for a while, at least, until the repetition in plot lines, actors, settings, Christmas decor, etc., overwhelms. At that point, if you’re lucky, you get to see Shirley MacLaine playing a sarcastic angel! Merry Christmas, Sally!

  8. On December 23, 2016 at 9:02 am Aurora said:

    My family just stopped asking… not sure if that is better or worse…
    I will have to try one of these options.

  9. On December 23, 2016 at 5:51 pm Dee Cantlon said:

    I’m with Leslie in Oregon…I started consuming these movies as a buffer for my sanity after November…I think one of the Prince Charming ones was called, creatively enough, The Christmas Prince”, but I probably made that up. It starred Danica McKellar, one of the 80s or 90s child stars mentioned. I gotta say, I google a LOT of the actors in these lil bon bons and there are a significant number of drop dead gorgeous Canadian actors. Hmmm, with dual citizenship I could cure both problems at once…

  10. On December 25, 2016 at 10:33 am Nomadic Matt said:

    This post wins the day! Hillarious!

  11. On January 1, 2017 at 6:18 pm Priya said:

    I can’t believe I read this AFTER Christmas! I missed my shot at love. Is there such a thing as how to get a post new year boyfriend even though it’s winter and it’s chocolate-eating season?
    Priya recently posted..Happy New Year + New Year Resolutions

  12. On January 3, 2017 at 12:54 pm Linda Theodopolis said:


    Words cannot express how grateful I am for this amazingly miraculous blog post of yours. It has been ten long, arduous years since I broke up with Saul, whom I thought was the love of my life. We met in Taiwan while he was at a shoelace tying competition. He didn’t win the tournament, but he won my heart! 😉 lol. Anyway, after reading this post and carefully following its every instruction, I met Harry Theodopolis, a kind, humble ski instructor. He saved my life when I got a bit tangled up in my skis on the bunny hill and nearly lost a limb. We were engaged the next day and we are now proud owners of a small ski shack at the bottom of the bunny hill!!!! Thank you, Sally!!!!!!! XOXO
    -Linda Theodopolis

  13. On January 5, 2017 at 12:36 pm Linda Boggensworth said:

    As I was perusing your blog the other day, I couldn’t help but notice that the deeply personal comment that I so painstakingly worked on has vanished. As I considered you a dear friend and confidant, the deletion of my comment slices through my soul like the razor-edged claws of a thousand tiny kittens. I hope that next time you delete a comment, you will consider my feelings first as I am going through a rough patch due to the fact that Harry and I called off the wedding. He also kept the ski shack, which sucks. Anyhow, I hope your next post is titled “How to Procure a Boyfriend Before Inauguration Day”.

    -Linda Boggensworth XOXO

    • On January 28, 2017 at 1:09 pm Sally said:

      Linda, darling! You know I would NEVER delete a comment from you. It just was stuck in my “to be approved” in box and I’ve been too lax/upset about the state of my country and have woefully neglected both my blog and the “to be approved” comments. Sorry!
      I’m so sorry to hear about you and Harry. He doesn’t deserve you, that’s for sure!

  14. On January 6, 2017 at 12:31 pm Tim said:

    Silly girl….it is sooooo much easier than you think….you just say “hey, Tim, get over here….you are gonna be my boyfriend.” It is that simple really. I have been looking for a girlfriend. 😉


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